During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know  if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large  man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because  the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's  the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning, you fall  in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say,  "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just  standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in  love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY  relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at  all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and
your spouse's  idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The  symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic  difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or  even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start  asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the  love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.  This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to  succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to  love the person you found.
People blame their partners for  their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes  in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people  turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But  the answer to this
dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies  within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You  could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding  in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the  person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive  or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes  time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to  know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a  mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner).  Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are  also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. You can "make" love. Love is therefore a  "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this  always, God determines who  walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you  let stay, and who you refuse to let GO
 

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